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The busy have no time for tears…

Janette Watt, September 25th, 2007

Where have all the bloggers gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the bloggers gone?
Long time ago

I don’t know the other bloggers here, — not personally. But I bet I can guess where they’ve been the past several weeks. I bet that, like me, they’ve been keeping busy on many fronts. Working to make change, coping, resisting, and resisting and coping and working to make change… Busy, we’re very busy!

Why do we do it?
Why do we keep busy with this cause and that?

Byron said, ““The busy have no time for tears.”
Is that why we do it?
Do we stay busy in a frantic attempt to stave off reality? Are we afraid to stand still long enough to feel the pain — the pain of others, and our own? Sometimes, maybe.

But those of us who have been at this awhile and have stayed with it, somewhere along the line have learned that in order to continue to make change, in order to continue to cope and resist — that from time to time we must stop, get unbusy, …and feel the pain — let the tears flow.

I’ve come back here to do just that.
To stop awhile.
To get un-busy.
To read.
To ponder.
To listen.
To ponder.
To reconnect with what is…
the good, the bad and the ugly,
the successes and the failures.
To ponder.
To celebrate.
And, to shed tears.

And then, I’ll get busy again.

So it is.
Or so it seems to me.

[Wanting to give credit where credit is due, "Where have all the bloggers gone..." is an adaptation of the Pete Seeger song Where Have All the Flowers Gone]

Janette Watt Janette Watt is a proud-brazen-instigator, a value-driven political thinker, a social critic and an aspiring dissident writer. Her writing and her presentations are informed by her life experiences as an activist lawyer, an activist educator and active member of the human race. She is the owner/president of Watt Communications. Read other posts by Janette Watt.

4 Comments

  1. Sometimes we keep busy because we want to serve others. Sometimes we keep busy because it’s all we’ve ever been comfortable with. The thought of idleness scares us because then we are left asking ourselves: now what–what good am I if I’m doing nothing?

    Sometimes we keep busy because we find it easier to solve others’ problems, but are uncertain or unwilling to recognize our own shortcomings. Or, sometimes we keep busy because we fear our own reality. Avoiding conflict–particularly inner conflict–is sometimes the only way people feel they can cope. It only seems natural to avoid conflict.

    When we champion for others–perhaps the “weak”–we take on a bit of pain.

    When we take time to reflect, we can find sadness in our midst. When we take time to reflect, we don’t always realize the pain or adversity we have desensitized ourselves to. We have hardened our shell just a bit over time so we can continue to champion for beliefs that are met with resistance.

    But whether we take time to cry, or just to rest, we need to remember that we have helped people in some way or another. We need to remind ourselves that we are only one person and can change part of the world. We need to take time for ourselves to renew our strenghts and reaffirm our values!

  2. I get busy, very busy because once I go out there, there’s a lot to be done. Endless amounts of effort to be put out, checked out, reflected upon and action taken.
    It’s a lot. And it’s tiring. When I get back home, I just want to ‘not think’, do that delicious nothing that vacations are made of. Only when I get some time off work, do I get enough rest to stand back and blog, or comment or share what I’ve been up to.

    Am I afraid of idleness? No, but I do love to be useful. Ideally, I will learn to balance time to rest with time to make disciplined and intentional efforts. I do so hope that this year is the one where I combine artistic self-time with working with others-time.

    Great blog, Janette.
    Glad you found time to sing and ponder.

  3. Hey Janette! As a fellow blogger who has not written nearly as much as he should, I hear you!

    I signed up to be a blogger on the CD site with the very best of intentions–ain’t that usually the way? What becomes a roadblock to getting more blogging up? Life.

    Those of us who “do” always seem to have more task-possibilities offered up to us. The list of what we should be doing is as long as the list of society’s ills. The more you do, the more people contact you asking you to do more. Is this a viscious cycle, or what? If you get on a viscious cycle, what do you do if the brakes fail? And if you’re on a viscious bicycle, does that mean two of them?

    Obviously, I am easily distracted.

    And that is part of my point. I intended originally to post at least two new blog comments each week on the CD. I started out strong, but then it fell apart. My only explanation: the sick mother card.

    Yep, shortly afterward I started blogging for CD, my mom, 91, went into the hospital after a mild heart attack. She was too weak to be discharged to her apartment in a “retirement community”, and had to be placed in a personal care home. That took a total of three months. Three weeks after moving to the personal care home, she had another heart incident and was back in the hospital for five days. This past weekend, she had another incident, and was in the hospital over night.

    As her primary care giver, I have not only been visiting her as often as possible, including calling each morning, but I have also had to manage her transition, clean out her apartment (my house now is full of her furniture and belongings), etc. Volunteer activities such as CD blogging were put on the back burner, sadly.

    This leads me to writing about elder care, and I will attempt to, today, continue this comment as a direct blog post about elder care.

  4. What you wrote is a weakening call to don’t become a body without soul. Sometimes we are unaware that we are loosing ourselves in the race to achieve only what society values. As you say we need to stop and reflect. Change needs the contribution of all of us.

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